So I dropped him a line saying that I thought Lloyd might be my great great grandfather. I explained that George H Graham had discovered that Alice Baxendale had married my great great grandfather Alfred Octavius Kirby in 1875, and that she was the daughter of Lloyd Baxendale and Ellen Turner.
The Times, Monday, Jul 19, 1875: MARRIAGES
On the 15th inst., at St Jame’s Church, Piccadilly, by the Right Rev. the Bishop of Guildford, assisted by the Rev. J. Kirby Turner and the Rev. A. G. Kirby, ALFRED OCTAVIUS KIRBY, of 57 Queen’s Gate, to ALICE, eldest daughter of LLOYD BAXENDALE, Esq., of No. 58 Grosvenor Street.
There was another link to the Baxendale’s as my grandfather spent his school holidays with his (great) aunt Connie Bagge and I’m pretty certain that she was Constance Mary Baxendale before her marriage (see more here).
Brian got back to me today with a copy of the 1861 census of Totteridge, and it would appear that my great great grandmother is the daughter of Lloyd and Ellen Baxendale (see below). He also kindly sent me copy of a family tree of her ancestors, and mentioned that David Baxendell’s The Baxendell Family site is very useful source. So some more research to be done, and in the meantime I’ve included a version below of the family tree Brian sent me.
Hugh Backstondeine (c. 1559) Chorley, Lancashire, England | | William Backstondine (a. 1580) = Alice Haughton | | William Backstondine (a. 1603-1689) = Jane | | Roger Backstendeane (a. 1627-1702) = Margery | | Thomas Backstendeane (a. 1664) | | Josiah Baxendell (a. 1701-1764) = Elizabeth Smethurst | | Joseph Baxendell (1734-1784) = Mary Beadle | | Josiah Baxendell (b. 1761) = Mabella Salisbury | | Joseph Baxendale (1785-1872) = Mary Birley | | Lloyd Baxendale (1822-1883) = Ellen Turner | Alice Baxendale = Alfred Octavius Kirby